Keep Calm And Cut Him Off: 13 Reasons to "Go Silent" on Guys Who Reject or Break Up with You (Smart Dating Books for Women)

by Bruce Bryans

The mere act of making a decision in favor of your dignity will energize you and help you to feel more confident about yourself and the future of your love life.

Be respectful of his decision and demonstrate your queen-like dignity by forcing him to experience the full reality of his choice: A life completely devoid of your attention.

The things you say to yourself (both internally and out loud) will determine how you think, how you feel, and thus, how you consistently act. Changing your internal dialogue about men, love, and yourself will empower any actions you take towards getting the kind of man and relationship you really want.

Resist the temptation to act like a supportive girlfriend (or wife) to a man who hasn’t committed to you.

Do not “wait it out” with a man who has already made it clear that he is unsure about his future with you or who is unwilling to give you the kind of commitment you truly desire. Show him where you stand and what you stand for by ignoring him and getting on with your life.

Men need to feel responsible for the decisions they make. If you make yourself available to him even after he has made the decision to move on or not treat you in a loving way, you are ultimately robbing him of that feeling of responsibility. This is something that a mother might do for her little boy, thus it is not a dynamic you want to encourage in your relationships with MEN. Read that last sentence again.

It doesn’t matter if he’s lost his job, his car got stolen, or if his birthday is coming up, you are not “selfish” for not getting in touch with (or replying back to) him. No matter how socially acceptable an interaction appears (such as well wishes or any form of congratulations or consolations), you don’t have to feel guilty for not getting in touch with him and wanting to get on with your life.

If he doesn’t want you as his woman, he does not want your support either. Period.

Never try to reconnect with a man after he rejects you. Never.

Truth is, men respond faster to a change in a woman’s behavior more than any amount of crying, cajoling, complaining, or chasing. Therefore, when you find yourself rejected, ghosted, or on the bad end of a breakup, all you have to do is keep calm (be dignified), cut him off (be decisive), and do everything in your power to get on with your life (be dedicated to getting your needs met elsewhere).