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People with autism are often very big on rules and justice, in part because both serve to make life a lot more predictable –– fewer changes.
Meltdowns generally go in one of two directions: internalized and externalized. When internalized the meltdown may be accompanied by intense self-hatred, blame, and depression––even rising to the level of suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harm. When externalized, for some it can even manifest
Another individual, self-described as “high functioning,” reported the sudden and intense desire to destroy a batch of their recently completed fine carpentry during a meltdown.
Having a Meltdown is neither a Failure nor a Choice
there will always be a point at which a person with autism’s mind becomes overloaded, spinning down into conflict mode.
They do not have a choice at that point.
Perhaps the most maddening scenario for a particularly smart individual with autism is to be right but entirely frustrated in their efforts –– when others in positions of power over them are frustrating their (self-perceived) virtuous efforts or desires. If the matter at hand is sufficiently important, I can think of no better way to precipitate a meltdown.
When someone with autism is stimulated in a way that causes anger, they do not appear to be able to pause or consider alternate strategies for resolving the situation ––
Just as frustration can lead to a meltdown, however, unchecked anger can rise to a rage –– and just as meltdowns have a rumble stage, so does age.
Rage Anger that builds unchecked will eventually rise to the level of a rage. Like a meltdown, the individual has lost control, but rather than frustration and hopelessness, anger is the overarching emotion.
those with ASD are more likely to be the victims of abuse.
