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February 17 - February 26, 2023
Research now shows that a person’s past does not drive or dictate their actions and behaviors. Rather, we are pulled forward by our future.
everything we do is driven by our prospects of the future.
What is the reason or goal for this activity? What benefit am I getting from this? Where is this activity taking me?
All goals or motivations fit within two categories: approach or avoid.29,30
Grief has to do with the past, but fear, as we ordinarily experience it, is of the future.
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Your reason or goal, whether positive or negative, approach or avoidance motivated, is the driver of your thoughts, energy, and actions.
humans act as we do based on the future we see for ourselves.
We are generally dealing with so many immediate battles that it is hard for us to lift our gaze above the moment.
The quality of connection you have with your own Future Self determines the quality of your life and behaviors now.
Decisions and actions are best when reverse-engineered from a desired outcome. Start with what you want and work backward. Think and act from your goal, rather than toward your goal.
It is not the past, but the future, that drives a person’s actions and behaviors. All goals can be placed in two categories: approach or avoidance. Connected to your Future Self, you can appreciate, embrace, and love the present. Connection to your Future Self creates purpose and meaning in the present. The more connected you are to your longer-term Future Self, the better and wiser your decisions today.
Your connection to your future is how you live powerfully now.
Live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!
How would your Future Self view your current situation?
How differently would you act with your Future Self in mind?
Like MrBeast, have a clear view of your Future Self.
My experience is what I agree to attend to.
Not only do you see what you’re looking for, but you act toward what you most want and have decided will be yours.
Know that whatever you want is already yours. Act as though everything you want can and will be yours.
why that particular future, the one you’re currently committed to? What if you chose something else? What if you committed to what you truly want?
You can know what you’re committed to by your results, not by what you say your commitments are. We are all committed. We are all producing results.
When you change your committed vision, your identity immediately changes, which in turn, immediately changes the flow of your thoughts and behaviors.
“When you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
The most fundamental threat to a person’s Future Self is not the loss of freedom but the absence of purpose and meaning.
Without having a goal it’s difficult to score.”
Purpose provides an unparalleled life-force, vibrancy, and zest.
It is the future that dictates which decisions you opt for.
Hope does not consider the odds.
Hope is: a clear and specific goal agency thinking. Belief you have control over what you do, that your actions matter, and you can impact the results in your life.10 pathways thinking. You see a path, have a path, or can create multiple paths from where you are now to your goal.
“Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.”
the present causes the meaning of the past, than it is to say that the past causes the meaning of the present
frame the experience as a gain.
“Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future.”
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
it is far more powerful to mentally create the context you want, which is way beyond your current context, and use your future vision to drive your actions.
building a connection to your Future Self requires seeing your Future Self as a different person from who you are today.
The more you engage in short-term reward seeking, the fuzzier your long-term Future Self will become.
The more you invest in long-term rewards, the clearer your Future Self becomes.
The reason they’re living day-to-day is because their goals are day-to-day.
When you’re engaged in short-term goals, your time spirals quicker and quicker.
A massive threat to your Future Self is simply that you’re thinking way too small. Multiply your vision 10-times or 100-times larger.
You need to aim beyond what you are capable of. You need to develop a complete disregard for where your abilities end.
Whenever you seek mentorship, only do so with people who are in the arena. Get advice from people who have experience with the battles you face.
You cannot deliberately practice on the sidelines.
When you were outside the arena, you may not have felt like you were failing. But every day you sit on the sidelines, you fail by default.
Flow and focus drown if you can’t manage and filter complexity.
Phase 1: When we really have clarity of purpose, it leads to success. Phase 2: When we have success, it leads to more options and opportunities. Phase 3: When we have increased options and opportunities, it leads to diffused efforts. Phase 4: Diffused efforts undermine the very clarity that led to our success in the first place.
“We are kept from our goal not by obstacles, but by a clear path to a lesser goal.”
Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.
