The gain happens when you transform every experience into personal growth. No matter what occurs, frame the experience as a gain. Proactively and consciously learn from your experiences, and become better, not bitter, as a result. When you go through something terrible, and you frame the experience in the gain, then life is happening for you. Rather than being the byproduct of your experiences, your experiences are the byproduct of your conscious choosing. You determine what your experiences mean.
Face backwards and see every situation as new XP gained in the game of life.
