“My life is more flavorful because of my regrets,” she told me. “I remember the bitterness of the taste of regret. So when something is sweet, good god, it’s so much sweeter.” She knows she’ll never get the time back with her grandparents. “It’s a flavor that will always be missing,” she says. Collecting the stories of her father, which she wouldn’t have done without the prod of If Only, helps. “It is a beautiful substitute,” she says. “But it isn’t a replacement. Nothing will fill in that flavor. I will spend the rest of my life with a little bit of a gap. But that’s going to inform
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