Socially, effortless perfection means an easy grace that gets you accepted to the most exclusive eating clubs just by showing up and being—apparently—yourself. “You should drink a lot and be really fun,” he explains, “but not enough to look silly. You should be able to carry on an engaging conversation and joke about a number of different things—you can have weird quirks, but not too weird. You have to be unique, but also fit the mold. You’re incredibly sociable but manage to do very well in all your classes. You should be able to have an intellectual conversation, but also shotgun a beer.
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