be present, even when you’re not physically together. Ever the doubter, I asked Sharon what this actually meant. “Maybe it makes the daughter feel good,” I said, “because she’s the one who gets to sit around thinking about loving-kindness. But her mother’s far away, and she has no idea any of this is happening. All she knows is that her daughter refuses to see her. So what good does it really do?” “Making yourself feel good is not a nothing,” Sharon said. This hadn’t occurred to me. “It also allows the connection to grow,” she added. “Maybe she’ll write to her mother and tell her that she’s
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