In life, playing the role of victim “helps us out of the responsibility that is ours . . . [and] attracts a rescuer, somebody to come in and do the work for you. . . . The biggest transformation in my life happened when I stopped thinking of myself as a victim and started thinking of myself as the hero,” Don told me. He credits the change in his life’s trajectory to shifting his thinking and sense of identity to that of a hero mentality. “I lost 150 pounds and became more in control of my life.”
