The Pursuit of Excellence: The Uncommon Behaviors of the World's Most Productive Achievers

by Ryan Hawk

Be aware that doing something the hard way will benefit you (and your children). Fixed mindset leaders have a deep-seated insecurity. “They have to keep showing that they’re a genius.” People with a fixed mindset are afraid to find out that they aren’t very smart. Ask yourself, When was the last time I was wrong? (This is healthy. Do it often.) Sharing credit or taking it all for yourself? It shows a lot about your mindset. Growth mindset leaders share credit with others because nobody is self-made. We’re all community made. Do not reward children for getting straight As. Instead, focus on their willingness to push themselves with classes outside of their comfort zone and the attitude they bring to the class. I learned from Carol to read the teacher’s comments first and talk with my children about those comments before looking at the grades. Give positive reinforcement to growth mindset characteristics like effort, attitude, and willingness to take on a challenge. “Don’t praise intelligence. Praise the process.” Don’t declare that you have a growth mindset. Instead, figure out what triggers you into having a fixed mindset. Start there.