when you want to channel someone else’s potency, an encounter with an image or a thought of theirs can be enough to produce spectacular effects. In the way women have of helping each other out, offering each other a leg-up—whether deliberately or unwittingly—we can see the exact opposite of the logic of ostentation that rules the gossip columns and endless Instagram feeds: not keeping up the illusion of a perfect life—good for nothing but exciting envy and frustration, and even self-hatred and despair—but instead extending a generous invitation to constructive and stimulating self-fashioning,
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