Next question. “Why do we always say that people lost their battle with cancer and never that cancer won its battle against them?” He keeps making jokes—to be fair, he’s done it the entire time I’ve known him. I find it uncomfortable for the first few minutes of my visit, but I’m soon genuinely enjoying a morning I’d been dreading. It’s a kind and clever move—it doesn’t just make it easier for his friends and family when they visit, it also means we’ll remember him as he always was, diminished physically, maybe, but not in personality.
