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Long before you “come out” and tell people about your identity, it’s just you and your brain trying to figure it out, so it can also be a lonely time, often accompanied by whiny music and too much eyeliner.
The whole point of coming out is that we have the FREEDOM to be who we are.
Each LGBTQ+ person is completely unique and individual. Although a lot of gay people might like some of the same things (there is a rich and varied gay or queer culture), no two LGBTQ+ people are the same.
LGBTQ+ people do not cause homophobia or transphobia simply by being. Homophobes and transphobes are simply bigoted, and that, my friend, is their problem. LGBTQ+ people do not choose to be LGBTQ+. Bigots choose to hate.
Agree!
The worst fear is that your family, especially your parents, might react badly. At first many do—I won’t lie—but with time, nearly all build a bridge and get over it.
To this day, though, I cannot eat treacle tart without feeling like my world might come crashing in around me, as it did that night after I had come out—because even though my afternoon had been perfectly pleasant, the cat was now out of the bag, and I couldn’t get the furry bugger back in it. That is always going to be scary.
