And if you’re in the midst of a painful season, don’t feel guilty for catching yourself feeling happy every once in a while. That’s not wrong. That’s not betraying the loss. Let yourself be sad and then angry and then laugh really hard. Let yourself be tired and then anxious and then let yourself be surprised by a moment of beauty, of joy. This is how it is in the dark—confusing and circuitous and absolutely all the things sometimes, even in the same day.
