So much of the life I’ve lived up to this point was about holding things together, preserving them, never letting something fall or fall apart. It was like I was building a fortress, thick walls and foundations that went practically to the center of the earth itself. I was gathering people and years and traditions, wrapping people into it, weaving families and stories and moments and dinners together, trying to make something heavy and durable, something that would keep me safe. And moving to New York taught me a million things about living more lightly—that you can love someone and learn from
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