I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working

by Shauna Niequist

Self-compassion is letting yourself off the hook, letting yourself be human and flawed and also amazing. It’s giving yourself credit for showing up instead of beating yourself up for taking so long to get there.

We find the courage to change when we feel loved. It unlocks our ability to move forward and grow.

Self-compassion is learning to say, I guess I haven’t learned that yet.

woman named Blue gave me a massage once, and afterward I asked her if there was anything unusual about my muscles and bones, anything she noticed that I should pay special attention to. She answered right away and told me what every massage therapist, chiropractor, and doctor I’ve ever asked has told me: Your shoulders are a problem. Lots of people have problems with their shoulders, but you have bad problems.