Conversations on Love: Lovers, Strangers, Parents, Friends, Endings, Beginnings

by Natasha Lunn

The best frame of mind to be in – for anything you want – is an ability to walk away from it, were it not to come right. Otherwise you put yourself at the mercy of chance and people abusing your desperation. So the capacity to say, ‘I could be alone,’ is strangely one of the most important guarantees of one day being with somebody else in a happy way.

Even if you’re completely fine with being single, the minute someone pities you, you think, am I not living the way I’m meant to? We spend our whole lives trying to meet targets set by someone else. We lose sight of who we are, because we’re so busy chasing external things. In love that means people search for what’s outside of them (a romantic partner) and lose sight of what’s inside them (a potential for self-development and understanding).