This idea of – I’m using air quotes – ‘I’m a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man’ can also be dangerous, because being strong doesn’t mean you don’t need people. We’re not born to be alone. We need community, however we choose to find it: with a partner, with friends, with family. I think there’s a danger of pulling away from love in order to own your feminism, when, actually, you learn to understand yourself in relation to people around you. You can find independence through connection too.
