But how do you find the tricky balance between active effort, hope and acceptance? You do the things you need to do, but you try to do them in a slightly detached way, recognizing there’s an element that is completely out of your control. All you’re doing is showing up with the lightning rod and waiting, without waiting too hard. There’s this dance of expectation and industry and letting go. It’s hard to put language around it because it’s really hard to wait for love. The best advice I have is to try on different positions. Giving up completely is a position that can help, and then absolutely
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