“What if I don’t want Mom there? Can I just tell her not to come and then she won’t?” “Now, honey, your mom has to come. That is not optional.” “Why? Why are you optional and she’s not?” “You’re saying that you want to move into the dorms without either of your parents there?” Dad says. “No,” I say, “that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying that—never mind.”

