I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Third Edition: Understanding the Borderline Personality

by Jerold J. Kreisman

Coworkers should avoid kidding around with him and should stay away from good-natured teasing, which the borderline colleague may easily misconstrue.

Yet all alone, in the middle of the night, she does not know what she really believes.

In BPD, these behaviors may serve to relieve tension, self-punish, overcome feelings of detachment or dissociation, establish a sense of control,

Another feature of BPD is persistent splitting—dividing perceptions into extreme and opposite dyads of black or white, right or wrong, resulting in the belief that oneself, another, or a situation is all good or all bad. In addition, if the all-good person disappoints the borderline individual, the formerly good person can mutate into an all-bad person almost overnight.

such a person may need to dedicate himself totally to others in order to feel worthwhile.