Despite feeling continually victimized by others, a borderline individual desperately seeks out new relationships; for solitude, even temporary aloneness, is more intolerable than mistreatment. To escape the loneliness, the person with BPD will flee to singles bars, hookup websites, the arms of recent pickups, somewhere—anywhere—to meet someone who might save her from the torment of her own thoughts. She is constantly searching for Mr. Goodbar or Ms. Tinder.
