Narrative tap-outs can range from subtle disinterest to complete shutdowns. If we had thought bubbles they’d say “This is too uncomfortable” or “I don’t care enough about you to care about this” or “I can’t take this on right now.” If the reason we’re tapping out is the latter, it’s so much better to say that than to diminish someone’s story. It sounds weird, but we can tap out of sharing our own stories too. Often this is about a lack of grounded confidence that our stories matter or a lack of self-trust about when and how we share them. Tapping out of stewarding someone’s story can feel like
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