We become terrified of feeling pain, so we engage in behaviors that become a magnet for more pain. We run from anger and grief straight into the arms of fear, perfectionism, and the desperate need for control.
We fear making mistakes so we become perfectionist causing us to dwell even longer and hurt more from the mistakes we make. We find pain in an aspect of our life so we either avoid or try to control it instead of allowing what is to be.
Dating is scary for me because their is so much happening that i cant control. So in an atempt to keep control i avoid it. But this behvior just causes even more pain once i return back to the system set in place to make reltionships.
control prevents us from accepting thungs as they are.
