When we stop numbing and start feeling and learning again, we have to reevaluate everything, especially how to choose loving ourselves over making other people comfortable.
Loving ourselves must come before our desire to make other people comfertable. We must have the courage to be disliked in order to keep people from living our lives for us.
we fear displeasing people so we live much of our life out of fear of displeasing those around us. I see this al the time in my church. People so often proclaim the gospel isnt meant to be enjoyed. That fun and happiness are not the same thing. If what you are doing is not at some level changing you in the way you wish to be changed or resulting in an increase of happiness and joy, you are living an aspect of your life accordining to the oppinion of others. If your religious beliefs arent bringing joy, change them and dont continue to live accordining to how other people (your church community & parents) would have you live.
