Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity

by Devon Price

Everyday Unmasking: Daily Challenges for Being Radically Visible Disappoint someone: Practice saying “no,” “I’m not available to do that,” “I’m uncomfortable with that,” or “I have to go now” without any explanation or apology. Express disagreement in a situation where you’d normally just nod along to keep the peace. Notice when you feel pressured to do something you don’t wish to do. Practice observing this aloud: “I’m not sure why you are pushing this, because I already said no.” Try to go an entire day without guessing or anticipating anyone’s emotions. Try to go an entire day without controlling what messages your facial expressions or body language is giving off. Ask for something you usually feel too guilty to request. Go through an entire conversation without faking any reactions or emotions. Sing along to your favorite music while walking down the street. Bring a stim toy with you to a social gathering or public space, and use it without shame. Wear a fancy outfit or costume you absolutely love, instead of waiting for an event or an “excuse” to wear it. When a friend asks you how you are doing, give them an honest answer. Take action without running it past anyone else for approval. Share big emotions with safe people: find someone you can cry with, or vent to a friend about something that fills you with rage. Tell someone you trust about your neurodiversity, and what it means to you.