Don’t get me wrong, I love rough sex. I even love being the one who leans towards the more dominant side—especially with women. Because I enjoy both men and women, alone or together. Gender doesn’t register on my radar anymore because as I’ve gotten older, the more I’ve realized how important the connection actually is. Even if it’s a one-night stand, or a quick hook-up, I intentionally feel out the energy coursing between myself and whoever I’m with before I really let go.

