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December 1, 2022 - January 5, 2023
God to step in and address this
Tell God you’re confident that your prayer is heard.
Praise or recognize one of God’s attributes or characteristics, based on your past or present experience.
“Don’t worry; you’re okay.” I’m not banishing his emotion, I’m responding to it.
When you learn that God—or others in your life—won’t be scared away by your more vulnerable feelings, you can have a little more actual courage in life and begin to emotionally engage with the world.
When you are in touch with your emotions, you feel all the more connected with your Divine Parent, sharing your whole self with a God who longs to see and know you—and who longs for you to feel seen, known, and loved.
true connection heals shame.
it is a painful sign that we need closeness, rather than taking it as confirmation that we need to be holier.
The way we build secure attachment and heal shame comes through true closeness. We
Being in the care of present and responsive caregivers creates a sense of love that banishes shame.
This yield state creates a sense of belovedness within us. It’s the experience of being loved for who you are (not in spite of who you are). It’s
Delight is one of the biggest predictors of secure attachment, and delight grows in communion, in times of simply being with one another. We need time together—looking into one another’s eyes, laughing together, playing together—to feel truly connected. There’s no room for judgment or evaluation in these kinds of connections.
If shame is the feeling of being unlovable, then being loved—and knowing that Love—is the cure.
is then through relationship with a God who delights in you that heals the shame. It’s not through changing your behavior, it’s through understanding yourself as beloved of God.
The more we continue to focus on our performance and progress, the more we feel shame.
But if we’re going to heal from shame, we need relationships that go beyond evaluation.
Putting evaluation aside is a way to remember that God cares about more than just correcting your behavior.
We don’t need to fear evaluation or fall into shame when we come to a God who always approaches us with goodness and delight.
We’ve treated our sinfulness as the most true thing about us as humans, rather than our identity as created and loved by God. We’ve lost the picture of a Divine Parent who wants to wrap us in a hug and replaced it with a parent who loves us dearly but wants to continually coach or lecture us about how we could be doing better.
It’s only when we feel understood that we can begin to trust. When
That’s what good parents do: they validate emotions and then they give reassurance.
they help their children feel loved and secure and calm.
underneath anger lies anxiety that needs to b...
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It takes faith to bring your grievances to God. It takes faith to trust that God will respond with understanding rather than retaliation.
If we’re going to mend the wounds we have in our relationship with God, we have to speak about the ways we’ve been hurt. We have to voice our grievances.
