Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World

by Jennie Allen

Choosing to stay is not easy, but whomever God has given you as your family… the moment you decide to accept them for who they are instead of constantly trying to get them to change… the moment you look for ways to serve your family and church instead of constantly expecting things from them… the moment you watch for opportunities to speak an encouraging word instead of questioning their every decision… the moment you seek out chances to love them well instead of spending your days anticipating awful exchanges with them… that might be the moment when you see your family and church changed. Perhaps you’ve heard of confirmation bias, which is when you find in the world exactly what you expect to find. Confirmation bias works here too. If you expect to find beauty in your family relationships,