Wait for friends to call you.
Okay: this I agree with, but only to a point. It is true you must initiate some contact if you want to spend time with certain people. However, if it *always* has to be you, this “friend” may very well be hoping you will go away. You gotta give people the chance to reciprocate, too. If they *never* reach out to you, they either don’t care much about seeing you at all, OR they have *stuff* going on in their life that’s using up all their bandwidth and meeting around your fire pit is not a priority.
