told the truth about a situation I was going through, and in response, I didn’t feel heard. In fact, one of those friends not only didn’t listen well but she one-upped my pain. Have you ever had this happen? You say that something is really hard in your life, and the other person responds by telling you about something she is dealing with that is even harder? It stung.
See, but this is what I mean. A lot of people (I’m one of them) don’t want every outing to have to be Deep Drama. I would bet money that friend was trying to lighten the mood back up because she probably thought something like, “oh no! Jennie’s preparing to turn this nice lunch into a gut-twisting cry-fest! I’m going to deflect it so we can just go back to being friends having lunch.”
