Ada wasn’t free to go out and build the world. She was the legal property first of her father, and then of her husband. When she married at 19, she spent the next 3 years having 3 children. Babbage’s wife did that job for him.
And if you read half the "self-made" millionaires and the productivity gurus who happen to be dads, you'll see this is still a prominent difference, even if the dads themselves don't acknowledge it, the absence of talking about childcare is a stark contrast to how the mums talk about it in their books.
