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by
Mel Robbins
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August 29 - August 30, 2024
You are so much stronger than you think.
And that’s the thing: a high five is so much more than a slap of a hand. It’s a transfer of energy and belief from one person to another.
How does criticizing yourself actually help you?
Think about how great you are at supporting and celebrating other people.
But when it comes to celebrating and encouraging yourself, you not only fall seriously short—you do the opposite. You trash yourself. You look at yourself in the mirror and pick yourself apart. You tear yourself down and argue against your own goals and dreams. You bend over backward for other people and never for yourself.
It’s time to give yourself the encouragement you deserve and you need.
Self-worth, self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence all begin by building those attributes within your SELF.
How you see yourself is how you see the world.
The most powerful forces in the world are encouragement, celebration, and love.
If you want more celebration, validation, love, acceptance, and optimism, you must practice giving those things to yourself.
When you stop making yourself wrong for how you’re feeling, you’ll immediately feel better.
You deserve to be cheered for, as you are, where you are, right now, starting today. You not only deserve it—you need it.
A high five costs nothing and what it gives you is priceless: a moment of validation.
The best NBA teams—those who made it to the championships—were the ones who gave the most high fives at the start of the season.
It comes down to trust. The teams who high fived constantly lifted each other up. The physical touch says, I’ve got your back. Let’s go, we’ve got this.
The best teams create “psychological safety.”
The lynchpin to your happiness at work is whether or not you have a manager who cares about you. A high five manager has your back and is someone you can trust—and who trusts you. When you walk into work, you want to feel like you matter.
studies have found that brushing your teeth with your nondominant hand while repeating a thought forces your brain to pay extra close attention to that message.
Meaning, how kind you were to yourself and how much you cheered for yourself had a direct and proportionate impact on your happiness.
research shows that when you’re tough on yourself, it has the opposite impact that you want it to have. It is not motivating and it does not encourage you to achieve.
It teaches you to put your own needs first—from the moment you wake up.
You first must love and accept where you are, forgive yourself for whatever led you to this moment, and come from a place of self-love and self-worth: I DESERVE to feel happier and healthier and I CAN take the steps to take better care of myself.
wrong with me” happens to everyone. Psychologists call it a “break in belonging.”
You start to feel like you don’t belong in your family, your church, your friend group, your neighborhood, or the world at large. And that feeling then creates a second break in belonging—with yourself.
gets conditioned into you that love and acceptance are transactional. If you do what I say, then I’ll love you. Come to think of it, that’s exactly why you withhold love from yourself, you learned to in childhood.
“So often self-love is shown to be about fixing yourself. That’s why I love high fiving myself in the mirror, because it shows us that self-love is really about falling in love with the parts of yourself you’ve been trying to fix.”
being the result of that sperm and egg encounter, at 1 in 400 trillion. And even that isn’t accurate. A scientist from Harvard wrote a research paper about the odds of you being born and the number is so insane, it looks like this: 1 in I don’t even know how to say that number. It proves that the odds of YOU being born are nothing short of a miracle.
when your negative thoughts increase, you may get trapped in the spin cycle of catastrophic thinking.
