The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

by Dan Sullivan

When your happiness is tied to something in the future, then your present is diminished. You don’t feel happy, confident, or successful. But maybe in the future you will be, or so the logic goes.

When you’re chasing happiness externally, it’s because you’re disconnected internally. And when you’re disconnected internally, then you’re trying to fill a GAP.

You’re in the GAP every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal.

As Greg McKeown put it: “If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”6