The example I gave earlier about memory cookies, where all the sensory components get mixed together, applies to positive experiences as well as trauma triggers. Sensory elements can be combined to form memory cookies that help us know we are safe, cared for, and loved. So if you are alone and it is hard to access your truest self, imagine that a loving friend, your therapist, or anyone else who makes you feel safe is talking to you or sitting next to you. The memories and emotions you associate with loving people, or even by thinking of them, can help you access that feeling of love, which
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