Sometimes I would mimic or parody or outright make fun of myself as an Asian. I was saying to white people, ‘I’m not like those people who are sensitive about race. You don’t have to worry about me; I won’t cause trouble here.’ I was basically putting myself and my community down to make someone else feel comfortable and not have to change something. But I’m in my mid-thirties now, and I’m asking myself the question, ‘What does it look like for me to be proud of who I am, with my race and ethnicity and sexuality?’ I don’t want to shift myself anymore just to make it comfortable for other
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