Adapted to deprivation, they have learned there’s a limited love supply. Their emotional intensity sometimes looks like a baby or toddler in a protest state (having a tantrum): crying, screaming, or pouting to bring someone close. Anxiously attached women may rage, pout, starve, or seek revenge when they detect abandonment, even by their daughters. Women with an anxious attachment style have the same need for autonomy as anyone else, but they don’t feel it. For them, being alone is torture and the concept of restorative solitude is unimaginable.
