Finding a place to belong sounds much easier than it is. You have probably tried. Groups of women can be scary places. You might have learned that churches aren’t safe either. For this reason, I love 12-step programs. They are free, nonjudgmental places to belong. If the idea terrifies you, try a phone meeting or an online group like InTheRooms or Seeking Integrity (www.seekingintegrity.com) for support.