Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance

by Kelly McDaniel

In recent interviews, former surgeon general Dr. Vivek Murthy discusses the toxic nature of loneliness. He explains that ongoing loneliness creates a “chronic stress state” that in turn damages the immune system; creates inflammation, heart problems, depression, and anxiety; and increases the likelihood of premature death. “Chronic loneliness is the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day,” according to Dr. Murthy.24 In a culture that encourages independence training for babies and children, too many parents are profoundly unaware of their baby’s critical attachment needs. Fearful that their children will be weak, needy, or spoiled, the most well-meaning parents make mistakes that leave their little ones lonely, negatively impacting secure