Earning security comes from finding new ways to self-nurture, building authentic protection, and creating a coherent story about your formative years. I realize this sounds clinical and laborious. The truth is that although it’s possible to create a healthier attachment style, it takes considerable effort to grow new pathways in your brain. Like beginning a new exercise routine, the first days are the worst. You’re tired, off-balance, and unsure it will work. But with practice, you gain strength, momentum, and confidence.
