Women with avoidant attachment easily miss cues for closeness from others and are frustrated when those around them need reassurance, judging them as needy and inferior. Judgment is a psychological adaptation sheltering the tender attachment injury underneath. This self-preservation strategy creates a false sense of power, upsetting the balance in any relationship. Because these avoidant strategies are primitive implicit adaptations to unbearable emotional pain, they are largely unconscious, causing confusion for women when friends or partners point them
