People cannot bear to think there are channels of human experience that are closed off to them, that they’ll never know. People want to believe their experience is universal, that nothing’s outside their scope. That their simulation of losing their spouse is just the same as my real loss. I could see it when I caught them looking at me. Wondering how it would be for them. What they say: call me. What they mean: it’s your responsibility to let me know when I have to care.
