Everybody knows – words of liberation. That campaign for same-sex marriage was the best I had ever seen because that’s really all it said. It was not about revelation. It was all about recognition: you know us, you are us, we are you. But what was being recognized was not just the wonderful and ordinary variousness of Irish lives and desires, it was Irish society’s other secret self – not the one that contained all the darkness and in-turned violence, but the great secret of intimate grace.
