Children learn subliminally that the narcissistic parent gets what they want from bullying, lying, stealing, and pushing others’ boundaries. The alienator shows the children the other parent is “weak”, and urges them to hurt the other parent by behaving in a malicious manner toward him or her. There could be nothing more hurtful to a parent than complete rejection by their children. The child will then align themselves with the alienator to protect themselves from similar aggression.
