work Of Anger (that was addressed to his elder brother Novatus) he explains that ‘not striking back’ is the way to stop the quarrel. Yes, by doing so, the attacker might be perceived as the winner but, according to Seneca, the winner is the real loser. The real winner is the one who prevented serious damage from being inflicted, like a wound, or a broken leg. The real loser is the one who intended to provoke a reaction but didn’t get what he wanted.
