Conversations on Love

by Natasha Lunn

The best frame of mind to be in – for anything you want – is an ability to walk away from it, were it not to come right.

You like or love someone when you like or love yourself when you’re with them – and that takes a long time to know.

who would clean the brown juice out of the bottom of the bin rather than ignoring it and putting another black bag over the top.

Have you ever felt the unbearable weight of not knowing? Have you ever thought, if only I could get a guarantee that I would one day get what I long for, then I would be able to relax? Or, even if I knew that I would never get it, then at least I could design a different sort of life, instead of wasting energy on waiting for what could be just around the corner:

If you tell me, ‘I care about my partner,’ then my second question is, ‘How do you show it?’ The fact that you feel it isn’t enough. What do you do to let the other person know and yourself that that’s the case?

Our culture makes it difficult, because everybody’s supposed to be oh so happy all the bloody time, and that isn’t who we are – we have multiple feelings.

She listened and demanded as little of me as she could.

‘Sometimes you don’t remember something, but you remember how it made you feel.