I would eventually realize that the thing making me so uncomfortable was “femme invisibility,” a tendency for femme-presenting queer people to be overlooked and invalidated, even within queer contexts. I’d learn that even though the issue transpired in spaces where men weren’t usually present, it still stemmed from sexism—butch lesbians were often perceived as more “valid” because of the arbitrary value patriarchy places on masculinity.VIII
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