Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much

by Jen Winston

The problem isn’t promiscuity—it’s patriarchy, which vilifies sex and dismisses non-monogamy. The problem isn’t confusion—it’s binaries, which encourage us to make finite decisions (usually between two constructs that we never got to choose in the first place). The problem isn’t being greedy—it’s that systems function better when we don’t demand what we deserve. As it turns out, I’m not straight. I’m not gay. The only thing I am is a threat. Because now I understand that bisexuality isn’t just an identity—it’s a lens through which to reimagine our world. This book is about desire—sexual desire, yes, but also the desire to exist beyond the strict boxes that social expectations try to put us in. Greedy is about a lifetime spent thinking that I wanted too much, and how that made me want even more.