The piece argued that we need to reframe the entire way we think about sexual violence—as long as we see it through a binary lens (e.g., consensual/not consensual, legal/illegal, okay/not okay), the burden will still fall on survivors to definitively say “no.” Shim pointed out that even the affirmative consent model was far from survivor-centric: “Why is it that in so many purportedly ‘feminist’ opinions and re-writings, Ansari’s actions remain unchanged, while Grace is the one who must be stronger, better, smarter, faster?” “Damn,” I said, but Eden didn’t look up. Instead she read a different
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