I read the blogger Erin McKean’s quote: “You don’t owe prettiness to anyone… pretty is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female.’ ” As a budding feminist (*listens to BEYONCÉ (self-titled) once*), I understood this, at least intellectually: Women and femmes were not obligated to look attractive to please men. Yes, adhering to specific beauty ideals would probably make our lives easier, but no one could force us to comply.