The gendered metaphors made my skin crawl. In advance of laying out the full scope of our strategy for Iraq, “we needed to show some leg” to foreshadow what we were about to do, or we needed to go in “open Kimono” and be fully transparent. When we landed on an option in the middle, avoiding a hard choice, we might find ourselves “half-pregnant,” a phrase I’m embarrassed to say I heard myself using while more than half-pregnant.

